Living in the after effect

The abuse is over. It happened, and now you've bandaged up the wounds and moved on. WRONG!!! 

That's not how it works...AT ALL. It is much more complex than that. Remember the last time you burned yourself while cooking....it stings really bad for a while. You constantly are checking the wound, trying to make it heal quickly or simply monitoring it for progress. Then after a couple weeks go bye, there is that ugly dark scar left behind that doesn't hurt anymore, but you're still obsessed with it. You begin a burn scar treatment plan....then after weeks go by, you move on...only to revisit it again as soon as someone brings it up. Then the cycle repeats itself. How long does this cycle continue...never really thought about it huh? 

Now add this part to the equation...the person that you loved the most, whom you also thought loved you the most....has turned into your scariest nightmare. Just imagine how many times that will repeat in your mind...TONS! 

After a few days, your friends and family no longer understand how crucial continued support is to your life. The victim lives thru a plethora of emotions...and sorts through so much emotional baggage In the pursuit of NORMALCY! 

The victim is AFRAID...no matter how empowered they have become! They self doubt...no matter how strong or successful they appear.... These are just the facts. Continuous support is critical to a prolonged good quality of life. 

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